And Cleo Levin, makes much of our special. 'The Signal Man' is a short story written by one of the world's most famous novelists, Charles Dickens. Co-host of Slate's "Mom and Dad Are Fighting" podcast, and he co-writes Slate's "Care and Feeding" advice column. I want to teach him that its OK to have big feelings, to cry, to really love things that boys arent stereotypically into, but I also dont want to raise him with unrealistic/sexist views about love. How Do I Get Them to Back Off? Is there a chance that Ella doesnt mean anything by her comments? I have two beautiful daughters. My opinion is that you shouldnt police the behavior of people being kind to your child. Not to use a popular buzz phrase, but your role in this is to provide psychological safety and reassure him that everything will be OK, because it will be. Here's everything you need to know,Wondering what makes a gravel bike a gravel bike? Ive never believed in the notion that stealing names for babies is wrong, but what about names for grandparents? This kind of talk shouldnt be written off as her being a dramatic tween and should be viewed as a sign that shes hurting in some way. Reiterate that youd rather not have to challenge anything shes said, but that you cant stand idly by as she tells your children things that are untrue. My Daughter-in-Law Is Blowing Up Over the Tiniest Little Thing. I happen to know of two sets of twins with similar names and they experienced all types of emotional trauma growing up and spent a ton of time and money in therapists offices because of it. Al, from Monroe, Connecticut "I'm a single dad to three boys, and I have been alone with them for seven years. Its anonymous! Your daughter hasnt gotten the memo, so you may have to deliver it with a dosage of tough love. Photo by Getty Images Plus. So why doesnt that include getting help for his anger and behavioral issues? Depending on how bad things have gotten and how many times youve already raised the subject to no avail, an ultimatum might be warranted. Discuss this column in the Slate Parenting Facebook group! Some of their friends have grandparents who are in their early 60s. I know you love my kids, but I cant have them live with the fear I had all of my life around you. Hes been sneaky about it too, suggesting names like Isabelle and Eleanor, before suggesting we give them the nicknames Belle and Elle. Submit it here or post it in the Slate Parenting Facebook group. Where do we go from here? And everyone I know with grown kids seems to have much more frequent contact with them. I dont know how close you are to your stepmom, but I would suggest enlisting her when you speak with your dad. Charlie did not use any of the teacher's examples, and instead wrote a paper . Intentions arent everything. You have to use headphones.". Some new parents have no trouble leaving their infants with a grandparent or other trusted sitter; some hate to leave them, no matter who is available to care for them.) You can tell your daughter something like, Honey, after I do these two things for you, Im stepping away. As for how you build and nourish a good, happy life for your children, youre already working on that. Or ladybugs. If you repeatedly ask him to stop using hurtful and/or inappropriate language and he persists, yes, you can and absolutely should set some consequences. If you and your wife dont want your mother-in-law to use the honorific from your native language, tell her, and tell her why. Even visits to the pediatrician were sad and depressing. (Questions may be edited for publication.). If you need to talk, or if you or someone you know is experiencing suicidal thoughts, text theCrisis Text Lineat 741-741 or call or text 988 to reach theSuicide & Crisis Lifeline. My husband and I feel overwhelmed and scared, but we love our daughter unconditionally and feel determined to build a fun, fulfilling, and happy life for our family. How Do I Get Them to Back Off? He is generally happy, though definitely not an easygoing child. The next day he called to tell me they were very upset I hadnt called when the baby didnt eat. To ask a school-related question to our panel of teachers, email. Photo illustration by Slate. Photo illustration by Slate. Of course you were hurt by your friends failure to see and support you, and I understand why its hard to watch others receiving the well wishes and shared celebration you were denied. Slate has a parenting advice column called Care and Feeding. She is constantly yelling at and berating their mother. How Do I Get Them to Back Off? (In other words: there is no one right way to handle this! Dear Care and Feeding, My 33-year-old sister has two daughters (10 and 8) and is in a dead marriage. Your house, your kids, your rulesyour MIL can treat all your children with basic decency, or she shouldnt be sharing a roof with them. Photo by SvetaOrlova/iStock/Getty Images Plus. ), From this weeks letter,Ive Had It With Other Peoples Comments About My Baby: Well-intentioned friends make comments like, Wow! I know that sounds trite, but honestly what else can you tell them? Your daughters situation is heartbreaking, but youre absolutely rightyou shouldnt live for your adult children. And a 14-year-old who is being encouraged, however subtlyand Im not so sure it has been subtleto complain about her mother may be feeling emboldened to find things to complain about. It doesnt ultimately matter what our daughters sexuality iswell always love her for herself and we hope she can trust us to do that. But, in general, that "demand" is coming from a little one. Maybe start with, Dad, I love you very much, but I have to be honest with you. Obviously he, like all of us, will be exposed to rude or inappropriate or hurtful words for the rest of his liferight now, the key is to help him start thinking more critically about language, how we use it, the power it wields. He has a temper that he cant control and will not do anything about it. and then ensure she sees a mental health professional immediately. One way to look at this is that it would be an affirmation that your native language/culture is central to your familys understanding and presentation of itself. Hes always been a little bit behind (within normal parameters) for self-regulating and similar skills, but hes not regressed too much. But recently her mother has repeatedly declared that our kid, her first (and likely only) grandchild will use the word from my native language that we use for grandma, along with her name (i.e., Grandma X). Dont do anything. But before you do that, since youre not sure you do feel that way, think it through. Is it inappropriate of me to take her to Morgans funeral as a learning experience? Forgiveness is a cornerstone of the faith. In this case our fundamental philosophies for picking names are different and neither of us are willing to compromise. Have a question for Care and Feeding? Care and Feeding Care and Feeding is Slate's My Ex Wants Us to Vacation Like One, Big, Happy Family. Yes, theres a strong chance that your son will be upset at first, but if hes as outgoing as you say he is, then its highly likely he will make new friends fairly quickly. Submit it here or post it in the Slate Parenting Facebook group. This isnt unique or new, and I think you could be overthinking all of this. This should absolutely be a hill you should die on. He cant run or keep up with young kids like he used to. When will it end? My daughter's friends tell me I look great I was about 17 at the time " I've been searching for my father my whole life and through 23a then you should take the requisite steps to get him the help he needs. When he does the work, hes lazy, resents having to do multiple steps on things, and doesnt follow directions well. Especially to her stepmother, who seems to be making no effort to hide her own considerable distaste and dislike for the childs mother. Its time for this man to do the same. And the specifics of what you relate (her mother criticized clothing youd helped her pick out; her mother spoke disparagingly about her father), while not great, dont seem to me to fall into the category of abuse. Nor does an insensitive, dismissive remark about PMS. All English Franais. Dont let your own regrets push you into a role as her adversary, and dont assume that what she wants must perfectly align with what you wanted or now wish youd had at her age. I understand his love of peace and quiet, but he has told me he is done with going out. My Ex Wants Us to Vacation Like One, Big, Happy Family. My Ex Wants Us to Vacation Like One, Big, Happy Family. ); some people have contact sporadically. Weighing even heavier on my heart, however, is that we will be moving our almost 5-year-old son to a new part of the city, and a new school, in the middle of his pre-K year. Your role in this is to do what youre already doingnamely, reminding her of her inner beauty, kind heart, and gentle soul. Im positive Kaylie doesnt know about this, and my husband says Im overreactingthat hes just watched too many TV shows and movies in which true love is part of the plot, and is also probably just lonely, what with living life online. My kids, 10 and 7, are both enthusiastic readers, and the 7-year-old loves to read his big sisters tween stories. All rights reserved. that your husband has youand your family, it sounds likewhile they continue to take care of their troubled adult daughter. In the meantime, I wish you fortitude. Submit it here or post it in the Slate Parenting Facebook group.. Dear Care and Feeding, Friends either ignored us or avoided conversations about our new baby. My youngest daughter is 10 months old andat her birthwas diagnosed with a very rare genetic disorder that brings with it a wide range of physical and intellectual disabilities. He was raised by his great grandparents and when they passed three years ago, my son-in-law inherited that house, where all 4 had been living. Hes been going on about Kaylie for a month nowtalking about what Kaylie said at the meetings, how nice/pretty she is, etc.and Im starting to get concerned. The night of the dinner, she seemed hesitant about leaving and told me to text her if he was refusing a bottle, reminding me that she could be home in 20 minutes if needed. My dad is in his 60s now and is starting to deal with a lot of the consequences of his age. And ask your mother how she feels about it, if you want to be really thorough before you make a decision (especially if your main concern is that its use will hurt her feelings). Dont get defensive or angry when it happens. My Daughter-in-Law Is Blowing Up Over the Tiniest Little Thing. I hate seeing pictures of healthy newborns. She needs to hear and understand how seriously upset you and your partner are about this, and that it is unacceptable to specifically target your youngest child and discipline him in ways that you, his parents, dont find appropriate. If you missed Mondays column,read it here. Discuss this column in theSlate Parenting Facebook group! Any kind of gloves: winter gloves, rubber gloves, gardening gloves, moisturizing gloves. He likes gloveslet him play with gloves. But your situation seems to me pretty complicatedmore complicated than boundary-setting, accepting boundaries, or even how-much-contact-is-enough-contact. Theyre each individually nice people, but they are absolutely TERRIBLE together. But honestly it feels like we dont have a relationship at all. One is a state college 30 minutes away. Is that enough though? You are within your rights to help your kid find books thatll be good for him right now; you arent going to be monitoring his reading forever. I have an 8-year-old son who is really, really smart but really, really stubborn. I Despise My In-Laws. Let him cry, let him yell, let him say that he hates you and this decisionbecause it all comes with the package of a small human expressing his displeasure. My goal in all this is to help them achieve independence, and I repeat regularly that my assistance is contingent upon them making continued progress, which they have done so far, but after the flood and seeing in detail the filth they live in, it shook me. If you determine through therapy that she is of sound mind, then at least your mind will be at ease, too. Uh, No Thanks. Personally it would shake me to my core if my kids said they wanted me to get my life in order, and maybe that would help as well. My stepbrothers are 9 (twins), and my half-sisters are 6 and 4. At the young age of four, she can be downright stunning. As a baseline, lets stop comparing our relationships to our kids with anyone elses. I dont want to ask my kids What did your mom say about me this week? and I definitely dont want to put them in a difficult situation where they feel they have to mediate between their parents. Some of the applications have a series of essay questions. My question is, with my small house, and her breaking the rules or maybe better put, contingencies for living here in this tiny, studio apartment-like home, and me turning 65 in 3 months, and her refusal to accept any kind of opinion, or especially discipline for her kids, how obligated am I to give her such a safe, and free I might add, place for them to live? All contents 2023 The Slate Group LLC. If you want to be the one who cares for that child two days a week when his mother goes back to work, youll have to be able to convince her that youll handle things the way she wants them handled, not the way you think is best. She is an adult. Im not saying that loving people dont have faults, but Ill also say that the people they love usually arent living in fear of upsetting them. (Questions may be edited for publication.). Today its gloves; next month it could be snap-shut purses. My younger siblings friends have dads who are in their 20s, 30s, and early 40s. Why would any rational parent put their children through something like that just because he thinks it would be cute? Have a question for Care and Feeding? Photo by Getty Images Plus. There are two new voices behind Care and Feeding, Slate's parenting advice column, who are going to offer a wide range of guidance to curious and concerned parents. Id also find out more about why shes considering commuting to collegeshe must have her reasons, and maybe some of those are reasons you could try to understand and respect, even if you still dont agree. Now our son keeps saying f*ing sh*t. Weve tried telling him we dont say bad words like what Daddy said, but that didnt work. Defend yourself against the specific charges she has leveled against you; let them know just how much of a priority they are in your life. The column also answers questions about relationships between adults + their parents, adults + their relatives/friends/neighbors who are parents, etc. I have a good relationship with both kids, who are now teenagers, and I know that they take most of what their mom says with a big grain of salt. Each day they do a different task with their word list. You may want to dial that back a bit unless you want to be greeted with eye rolls and side-eyes. It may very well be that her mother is being verbally/emotionally abusive. Hes a loving man so she stays and I understand how tough that would be. 3 Beds. Additionally, you should enlist a friend or family member to stand by your side when you talk to him in person so you have that extra support. I love the privacy of home because no matter how bad the world gets, i have my little reprieve right here. Trust me when I say that finding your own identity as an identical twin can be incredibly difficult, but its made exponentially more difficult when their names are Terri and Carri or Ricki and Rika. Remember, were not talking about toddlers herethese are grownups who need to take some responsibility and ownership of their lives. Hopefully, the kids will learn to ignore their mothers claims about you. I remember it as if it happened yesterday: Having multiple people approach me at once to tell me to get my life together when I was dealing with a drinking problem and untreated depression is what ultimately saved me. ), is just an impossible, unsustainable situation for your kid. Also, you should find out who he spilled the beans to and ensure they keep it under wraps. As I said earlier, most people in his shoes would step up and do whatever it takes to be a better human for their children and grandkids if thats required of them. New ones are published almost daily. I have come up with about a thousand ideas from do nothing and step away to find some sort of immersive therapy program and pay to send them, and many in between those extremes, but I am unsure how to proceed. Though Im sure youve given this some thought, let me remind you that you can take your ex to court to try and force her into mediation. And then, it happened. Have a question for Care and Feeding? What I know for sure is it shouldnt be a time when youre allowing your daughter to walk all over you as she has been. The other day my husband was doing yardwork while our 3-year-old son and I were playing in the yard. by . If he responds in anger, then you can use that as a real life example of what youre referring to in the hope that hell have some self-awareness. And other than supporting my husband, is there anything else I can do? In other words, I am basically pigeonholed, by default, into all duties as a parent, but with none of the say. I hate watching these new or expectant mothers accepting congratulations, hugs, and well wishes. All contents 2023 The Slate Group LLC. And you didnt do that. Maybe theyll decide to try couples counseling. Reclaim your life and sanity by putting your foot down today. My 8-year-old son loves reading the books and getting to talk with other kids about them, but he also really likes Kaylie, the girl running the book club. Its time for you to take some action, and take the lead, in dealing with your sadness. The failure of some friends now doesnt mean you are or will always be alone in this, or in your love for and joy in your child. I dont want them to see me as a burden. Ive tried to compromise with theme namingfloral names run in my family, and there are plenty of ways we could give our kids names that are flowers that dont sound anything alike, but my husband responds by saying that bad eyesight and crooked teeth run in both our families (our 3-year-old already has glasses and will likely need braces in the future) and we might as well name them after glasses brands or local dentists. That didnt work. Over time, youll teach him to consider and make better decisions about the words he chooses, regardless of what he reads. Submit your questions about parenting and family life here. And I would say that Daisy needs to be talking to a therapist without her mother present as well as undergoing therapy with her. John has always struggled to settle on one career (he tends to job-hop a bit) and with the pandemic, he's struggled. Ask open-ended questions, and listen more than you speak. Care and Feeding is Slate's parenting advice column. And if she does mean what shes saying, I want to be able to help her. I would cry, avoid, and hed eventually apologize and say hed try harder. Or (for all you know) they have, to no avail. ), But keep in mind that your mother may be touchedpleasedrather than upset by your mother-in-laws enthusiastic embrace of this honorific. A collection of ask Amy, dear Abby & similar style letters/ advice columns. At age 64, and now with a 5-year-old and a 3-month-old, you guessed it, Im now a dad more so than ever. Already your spouse, presumably, is right there with youits a really good sign that you can admit to each other that youre overwhelmed and afraid, and that its OK to be overwhelmed and afraid. Yes, there are grandparents who play favorites and even grandparents who are downright hostile, but to have this daily negative impact on his life, in his household (at a time when he cannot even get out and go to school for part of the day! content language. Whats the alternative? Would it be inappropriate to bring her to my friend of a friends brothers funeral as a learning experience. How To Do It. My wife (26) and I (24) are expecting our first kid. Discuss this column in the Slate Parenting Facebook group! I Despise My In-Laws. From now on Nelson's Column only existed in his mind. They attend joint therapy, but her mom doesnt seem to be making any progress. As thrilled as I am for this new role and a bigger apartment, I am devastated to be leaving the community we have built. I can be too much too, so my heart goes out to you. (Again, Im not going to weigh in on this, because its nobodys business but her own. During the pandemic, one of the volunteers has started a Zoom book club for kids in second and third grade. I expect youll eventually find that you have others in your corner, friends who will relate to and understand and support your family, who will care enough to learn what they dont know, who will see and love and celebrate your child and all of you as you are. My husband and I don't dwell on this, in fact . So, what could you say when youre ready? How can I support Slate so I can keep reading all the advice from Dear Prudence, Care and Feeding, Ask a Teacher, and How to Do It? Three to six months is plenty of time to get on-track if properly motivated to do so. Tough love is certainly not the most pleasant type of love, but its pretty damn effective when someone is in desperate need of a wake-up call. I cant and wont live their lives for them, but they are my children, and I cant stand idly by while they live in a situation that I truly believe is hazardous to their health and which given his background and her struggles they seem unable to address. While the columnist tries to talk the distressed relative off the ledge with words of calm just back away slowly . However, she is much stricter with him in what we feel is not an age-appropriate manner, and she doesnt deny treating him differently. My wife feels strongly that this is a kind of appropriation, and that this title should be something special for my mother. How Do I Get Them to Back Off? Three-year-olds are the weirdest people on the planet. The collection features some of the most. Your family will not be invisible to such people either, and I hope you come across many more of them. Here's the lowdown Ask him to take a walk, if possible (well-masked, staying away from others! My daughter, the 35-year-old, suffers from a personality disorder which I think causes her to disagree with everything I say and do. The fact remains that the onus falls upon your dad to get his life in order, and if you can convince him to do that, then everything actually will be OK. Parenting advice on boundaries, new grandparents, and marital trouble. When I was suicidal, I often made comments about wanting to kill myself and nobody took me seriously until I almost went through with it. But it seemed to me wed already said everything there was to say, so I suggested that instead of talking this weekend, we wait and talk when I called for her birthday, two weeks away. Im convinced there will be a lot of joy in your familys future, not because everything will be easy, but because you love your kids unconditionally and want to give them all happy, fun, fulfilling childhoods. 87 Years After Nazis Stole My Grandfathers Citizenship, Germany Had an Offer for Me. I really do try to be neutral about the whole thingI dont want him to be ashamed of this quirkbut maybe he is picking up on my own unease about it? Over the past few months, she has developed this habit of saying things like kill me or I want to die when shes not happy about something. She does, however, like to sneak snacks. Of course children must be given tools to cope with emotionally abusive parents. Weve tried to speak with her, individually and together, and have not gotten anywhere. Including the parenting and rules I have for her children. Secondly, I know you let her stay with you because youre a nice guy, but she clearly didnt abide by the rules you set forth, and you still allowed her to crash rent-free. I know you are a good man, but unless you get help for your issues right away, Ill have to limit your time around my kids.. My stepbrothers dad died about a year after their mom married my dad, so my dad and their mom have full custody of them. Speaking from experience, I would keep an eye for additional warning signs like isolation, self-harm, disinterest in activities she used to enjoy, etc. Slate, which launched its first advicecolumn, Dear Prudence, in 1997, has seen notable traffic around advice and noticed positive upticks in its business' bottom line. I think you do have to get back into therapy. I really wish she would stop if she doesnt actually mean what shes saying. Dear Care and Feeding, My daughter is beautiful. But when Daisy asks me why she should continue to try to have a relationship with this awful woman, I just want to tell her to stay far away from her. If your goal is to help them to achieve a level of independence, it will never happen if you keep swooping in to save them. Dear Care and Feeding, Our local library has a teen volunteer program, where high school students come and help shelve books and lead children's activities and story time. Photo illustration by Slate. I have a large family. It begins in a month and commuting through the end of the school year is not really feasible for me, so were moving the weekend before I start (me, husband, and son). January 30, 2021, 7:00 AM. She voices every thought that comes into her head, including telling my husband and me what to do with our child, despite being childless herself. I know families have trouble with names all the time, but Ive never heard of a situation like ours. All rights reserved. Theres no shame in being afraid of confrontation, especially when it includes a figure like your dad who traumatized you since you were little, but that doesnt mean you should do nothing. I assured her wed be fine and sent them on their way. Put bluntly, shes flat out disrespecting you. Help us keep giving the advice you crave every week. The thing is, Im also really worried about my dads health. Have a question for Care and Feeding? I suppose I dont even know what my question is. You say your husband is obviously hurt by his parents seeming to favor his sister, but unless he has told you that, I think youre projecting. How online advice columns teach us to tell our own stories. Even if your MIL were right about him needing more help or support, the course would then be for her to discuss this calmly and respectfully with you, not try to intimidate him into being whatever her version of an ideal 5-year-old is. I cant speak to your relationship with your husband because youve said little about it. All contents 2023 The Slate Group LLC. Since hes started to do better with bottles (hes breastfed and previously had been refusing bottles), she agreed (if nervouslyand I did have to make the offer multiple times). Care and Feedingis Slate'sparenting advicecolumn. She took the baby and left the room to feed him. Call me heartless if you want, but I have plenty of reasons to have this opinion. How Do I Get Them to Back Off? The hard part is informing them that after this is over, youre done with being their financial and emotional savior. I find myself going back and forth about how I feel (but also less concerned about the former, more about the latter). The Slate advice columnists have a wide range of quality but I actually really like a lot of the parenting ones (particularly Nicole Chung and Jamliah Lemieux), even though I am not a parent. And of course they may have other reasons, having nothing to do with you, for wanting or needing to stay together.). The court in which we watch the jousting is floored with onyx in order to increase the courage of the combatants. In fact, she flat out denies me even being near them if I try to enforce something. ), As to your second question: For goodness sake, stay out of it. Ill wait. There is absolutely nothing wrong with a kid receiving innocuous compliments about her good looks, because positive reinforcement of any kind usually yields positive results. If you cant manage a phone conversation, I would put your thoughts in a letter. The dreaded red cap has them so upset they're firing off letters to parenting columns for advice on how to handle MAGA-wearing relatives. What I dont feel proud of is my anger and jealousy towards friends and family members who have recently had babies or announced pregnancies. Jamilah Lemieux and. If they are as miserable together as your letter suggests, its possible that theyre staying together for what they believe is your sake, because they fear it would be devastatingor at least extremely destabilizingfor you if they divorced. How should we prepare him? Care and Feeding is Slate's parenting advice column. Have a question for Care and Feeding? At the young age of four, she can be downright stunning. No, Im sorry. Please dont do that either. Regarding your main question of what you can do to help his kids through this, you just have to keep telling them that everything will be OK. 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